曾经的年少轻狂，早已荡然无存。曾经的花样年华，早已悄然而逝。
原来，80后的我们，都早已经老去。我们不再轻狂，
面对工作：我们已经没有了更多的激情，
面对感情：已经不把婚姻当成爱情的升华，而是把婚姻当作是亲情。
面对穿着：曾经过度讲究品牌感觉的我们，对于品牌已经变得陌生，
面对社交：当越来越多的朋友有了家庭之后，
面对家庭：家庭超越了爱情和友情，一切都将家庭放在第一位。
面对娱乐：突然发现，手机使用的频率越来越少了，
面对购物：总会想着买东西的时候，是不是有什么赠品，
面对一切的一切，我们都已经会了深思熟虑，我们的心中，
我们敏感，我们偏执，我们顽固到底地故作坚强；
我们追逐于颓废的快乐，陶醉于寂寞的美丽；
我们坚信自己与众不同，坚信世界会因我而改变；
我们觉醒其实我们已经不再年轻，我们前途或许也不再是无限的，
80后的我们，已经开始承认我们老了，没有了90后的青春，没有
我不禁感叹：原来，80后的我们都早已老去，
Declaration of Independence (1776)
The Unanimous Declaration of the Thirteen United States of America . When, in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bonds which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the laws of nature and of nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. That to secure these rights, governments are instituted among men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed. That whenever any form of government becomes destructive to these ends, it is the right of the people to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their safety and happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shown that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such government, and to provide new guards for their future security. — Such has been the patient sufferance of these colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former systems of government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute tyranny over these states. To prove this, let facts be submitted to a candid world.
He has refused his assent to laws, the most wholesome and necessary for the public good.
He has forbidden his governors to pass laws of immediate and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation till his assent should be obtained; and when so suspended, he has utterly neglected to attend to them.
He has refused to pass other laws for the accommodation of large districts of people, unless those people would relinquish the right of representation in the legislature, a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only.
He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual,uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their public records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them into compliance with his measures.
He has dissolved representative houses repeatedly, for opposing with manly firmness his invasions on the rights of the people.
He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions, to cause others to be elected; whereby the legislative powers,incapable of annihilation, have returned to the people at large for their exercise; the state remaining in the meantime exposed to all the dangers of invasion from without, and convulsions within.
He has endeavored to prevent the population of these states; for that purpose obstructing the laws for naturalization of foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage their migration hither, and raising the conditions of new appropriations of lands.
He has obstructed the administration of justice, by refusing his assent to laws for establishing judiciary powers.
He has made judges dependent on his will alone, for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment of their salaries.
He has erected a multitude of new offices, and sent hither swarms of officers to harass our people, and eat out their substance.
He has kept among us, in times of peace, standing armies without the consent of our legislature.
He has affected to render the military independent of and superior to civil power.
He has combined with others to subject us to a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution, and unacknowledged by our laws; giving his assent to their acts of pretended legislation:
For quartering large bodies of armed troops among us:
For protecting them, by mock trial, from punishment for any murders which they should commit on the inhabitants of these states:
For cutting off our trade with all parts of the world:
For imposing taxes on us without our consent:
For depriving us in many cases, of the benefits of trial by jury:
For transporting us beyond seas to be tried for pretended offenses:
For abolishing the free system of English laws in a neighboring province, establishing therein an arbitrary government, and enlarging its boundaries so as to render it at once an example and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule in these colonies:
For taking away our charters, abolishing our most valuable laws, and altering fundamentally the forms of our governments:
For suspending our own legislatures, and declaring themselves invested with power to legislate for us in all cases whatsoever.
He has abdicated government here, by declaring us out of his protection and waging war against us.
He has plundered our seas, ravaged our coasts, burned our towns, and destroyed the lives of our people.
He is at this time transporting large armies of foreign mercenaries to complete the works of death, desolation and tyranny, already begun with circumstances of cruelty and perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages,and totaly unworth the head of a civilized nation.
He has constrained our fellow citizens taken captive on the high seas to bear arms against their country, to become the executioners of their friends and brethren, or to fall themselves by their hands.
He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavored to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian savages, whose known rule of warfare, is undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.
In every stage of these oppressions we have petitioned for redress in the most humble terms: our repeated petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A prince, whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people.
Nor have we been wanting in attention to our British brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred to disavow these usurpations, which, would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, enemies in war, in peace friends.
We, therefore, the representatives of the United States of America, in General Congress, assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the name, and by the authority of the good people of these colonies, solemnly publish and declare, that these united colonies are, and of right ought to be free and independent states; that they are absolved from all allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the state of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as free and independent states, they have full power to levey war, conclude peace, contract alliances, establish commerce, and to do all other acts and things which independent states may of right do. And for the support of this declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of Divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our lives, our fortunes and our sacred honor.
四儿财中，好弟兄,七弟兄,四季财,全打开，楼上坐, 哎， 喝喝喝
老板儿，再拿一件啤酒
打斗灯笼，抓点儿盐巴，用龙骨头熬汤，你嘿期喝嘛，小心嘴巴儿巴斗烫，
这首歌巴斗唱，台子上巴斗上，你喜欢的话，还是要鼓点巴巴掌。
自贡的姑娘长得都多撑展，你不要焦眉辣眼问我在晒干前
我头发多短扎不起马马灯儿，图啥子，整死不得当类个扫脚兔儿
自贡人耿直，也要日壳子，特产是刀刀爽，包装是用盒子
反正在自贡你不的着饿死，听自贡话说唱还是要听歌词
自贡方言就像火锅里面放盐，自贡人不富打麻将绝对有钱
我不想紧斗念，也不想紧斗玄，自贡话有盐有味还是要节约时间
天车高，天车长，我家住在天车旁（这就是自贡，嘿，我生活的地方，嘿）
天车高，天车长，我家住在天车旁（这就是自贡，诶，我美丽的家乡，诶）
盖碗茶诶，我要来喝两口，早晨家不早点及还只有在类等斗
龙门阵吹起走，有热闹跟斗吼，实在不嗨再喊老板儿跟你来瓶二锅头
要说旅游，我恩大山铺看骨头，看起囊个儿的恐龙骨头还是有点油
大安区类个燊海井，我就不说好多米，反正落下及呀我就再也找不到你
没得事的河边上可以晒哈儿太阳，顺便约斗几个朋友可以打哈儿麻将
还有最后一张自贡话要说海底捞，把牌一摸卡二条你说你着不着
我HY从小就在自贡长大，吃自贡的盐巴喝自贡的茶，自流井就好像是我屋头的院坝
走的哪类都是说的自贡话，从东锅厂到东方广场，类是以前读初中必须走的地方
的类读啊三年昏书像是走的过场，所以年轻人，还是好生读书天天向上
二天有啊钱，的汇东买套房子，找个靓扫的妹子，就囊个子过一辈子
HY，最近咋子又不来读书唉？
诶，放假呀多嘛。
你又跟我两个鬼扯
天车高，天车长，我家住在天车旁（这就是自贡，嘿，我生活的地方，嘿）
天车高，天车长，我家住在天车旁（这就是自贡，诶，我美丽的家乡，诶）
我来自自贡，自贡有太多好耍儿好吃的东西，让你无法自可，
从冷吃兔儿到冷吃牛肉随你选择，自贡的灯会让你不用害怕天黑
灯儿在闪，心在扳，灯火辉煌让你感觉还是白天，自贡灯会让你看了绝对新鲜
今天，自贡的魅力，盐都的美丽，我是自贡人，所以用自贡话说唱
这是一种态度，我恩提起笔把这一切都记录，艺术要技术，所以TNT的名字大家都要记住
天车高，天车长，我家住在天车旁（这就是自贡，嘿，我生活的地方，嘿）
天车高，天车长，我家住在天车旁（这就是自贡，诶，我美丽的家乡，诶）
………………….
这是一首用四川自贡话唱的歌，挺有意思的，听听吧。可以点击这里下载。
如果爱，何必去想以前和将来？
来自孙未 2009-05-17 16:19:11 查看原文不安
当一份爱幸福得让你不安，请不要自己推倒它。
我有一对堪称神仙眷侣的朋友。
自从他们俩遇见后，就不可收拾地堕入爱河，从此像两颗糖果一样粘在了一起，上班短信不断，下班形影不离，无声无息地搬到一起并结了婚，用他们自己的话来说，快乐得像两只老鼠。平日里，就是看见他们亲密得一塌糊涂的样子，都让人好生欢喜。
可是过了两年，那个女孩来找我，诉说她的不安。
她问我，你说怎么办，我们这样在一起，真是太没有出息了。
我说，你们这样不快乐吗。
她告诉我，就是因为太快乐了，所以糊里糊涂一下就过了两年，完全不思上进，回想起来，我觉得心里慌慌的。遇见他之前，我本来为了升职，准备去年在职研究生的，结果没去，他也没有按原计划出国深造。我们甚至都没有开始攒钱买房子。
我问，为什么要这些“上进”呢？
她答，为了将来啊，我们可以生活得更幸福。
犹豫了一下，这个女孩又告诉了我一个秘密，原来，她以前曾有过失败的感情的经历，她为了初恋的男友，放弃了考研，可是他后来背叛了她，这使女孩一度非常疯狂地投入工作和进修，她觉得只有事业，是不会背叛自己的。所以，这一回，她害怕。
我说，让我来给你讲两个故事吧。
第一个故事是关于“以前”的。
有一个中年男人，深深地爱上了一个女孩。可是，他有过非常不愉快的婚姻，而且纠缠了整整十年，好不容易离婚了以后，他做出了一个决定，再也不结婚了。
尽管这个男人是如此爱这个女孩，他还是不能忘记以前的痛，不敢重新走进伤害过他的，婚姻之门。结果，他选择放弃了这个女孩，继续他单身的生活。
他就这样一直生活在“以前”，直到又过了二十年，他忽然发觉，自己其实是为了之前的十年，放弃了之后的二十年，而那比“以前”更长的时光中，有无穷美与好的可能性，现在也一样变成了以前。
第二个故事是关于“将来”。
有一对很相爱的夫妇，睡在一张简陋的小床上，她枕着他的胳膊，麻了，他忍着，因为不忍心吵醒她，他的腿搁在她的腿上，压痛了，她一动不动。有一天早上，他们相亲相爱地醒来，忽然想，如果有一栋海边的大房子该多好，可以夜晚听着海浪声相拥睡去，清晨听着海浪声苏醒，看彼此惺忪的睡颜，还有一张大大的铺满玫瑰花的床，如果这样，生活应该会更幸福吧。
于是像很多城市中为了将来打拼的夫妇一样，她的心思全放在了事业上，家里变得凌乱不堪，他在外面做事不顺利，回家免不了脾气暴躁。后来，他有了一个到国外发展事业的机会，一去就是五年。她很是寂寞，就与一个同事有了暧昧的关系。
好在婚姻这样跌跌撞撞，也维持了三十年。直到两人白发苍苍，银行的存款真的足够去买一栋海边的大房子了，他们却早已不睡在同一张床上。他们为了一个所谓的“将来”，磨折了自己三十年，这本来可以很幸福的三十年。
这不仅只是两个故事而已，我们哪个人不是这样荒唐地在生活着，在“以前”的经验中趑踞不前，并同时为着一个莫名其妙的“将来”，诸如五年后的职称、十年后的年假、二十年后的退休计划，三十年后的环球旅行，而说服自己要选择一个默默忍受的现在。
活在以前和将来的人，即便眼下就是唾手可得的幸福，他们也不会安然捧起，他们会把这幸福延迟到“将来”才觉得安全，或者让“以前”来置疑这幸福。人的快乐，都是自己推倒的。
格式塔疗法中，很重要的一个原则，就是让人关注此时此刻。这也正如佛教所说的当下，如微尘般聚散的世间，每一刻都无常变幻，包括你自己。你所拥有的，不过当下而已，所有对昨日和明日的思虑，都是妄念。
我对这位朋友说，当你觉得快乐的时候，你已经忘记了以前和将来，何必再去想起。昨天已然过去，明天和今天并没有什么区别，都是三餐一眠，还能“上进”成怎样，一日六餐不成？
在从生到死这个无稽的过程中，我们只活一天，若这一天有爱，那便已是永远。
